If a baby starts to cry several hours after drinking his last bottle, his mother knows precisely what he’s feeling: He’s hungry. But suppose a woman’s eyes brim with tears while she watches a DVD. Her husband sinks into the couch: What is she so upset about? She might tell him directly: “This movie is so tragic. It’s all about a doomed romance.” That may be true. But she could be thinking about how the story reminds her of her own marital troubles. Maybe she’s feeling hurt because she thinks her husband should realize what’s bothering her and acknowledge it. Or maybe she isn’t even aware that her real-world concerns are intensifying her reaction to the fictional couple.
Quickly and unknowingly, he scours his mental files—on his wife’s relationship history, on her reaction to the fight they had that morning, on the way she typically reacts to similar movies. He notes the particular quiver to her voice, observes the way she’s curled up on the couch, watches the expressions flickering across her face. He takes in information from all of these channels, filters it through his own wishes and biases… until finally it hits him: She knows about his mistress!
Every day, whether we’re pushing for a raise, wrestling with the kids over homework, or judging whether a friend really likes our latest redecorating spree, we’re reading each other’s minds. Drawing on our observations, our databank of memories, our powers of reason, and our wellsprings of emotion, we constantly make educated guesses about what another person is thinking and feeling. Throughout the most heated argument or the most lighthearted chat, we’re intently collecting clues to what’s on the other person’s mind at the moment. “It’s a perceptual ability I call mindsight,” says Daniel Siegel, UCLA psychiatrist and author of The Mindful Brain. “It allows your brain to create a map of another person’s internal state.”
Mind reading of this sort—not to be confused with the infallible superhero kind of telepathy—is a critical human skill. It’s the way we make sense of other people’s behavior and decide on our own next moves. Mind reading enables us to negotiate, compete, cooperate, and achieve emotional closeness with others. It lets us figure out when we’re being manipulated or seduced. It’s how we know when someone finds our jokes hilarious or is humoring us out of politeness. Mind-reading ability is perhaps the most urgent element of social intelligence.
Do it poorly and the consequences are serious: It can lead to conflict born of misunderstanding. It can make us feel lonely within a relationship. It can even incite violence: Abusive husbands typically—and inaccurately—attribute critical thoughts to their wives; that’s why they lash out. Difficulty divining others’ thoughts and feelings—”mindblindness”— characterizes autism and is what makes the condition so socially debilitating.
Decades of research on mind reading (or, as psychologists call it, empathic accuracy) now reveal how it works, who’s especially good at it, and how we can improve our ability to divine others’ thoughts—even when our conversation partners may not know their own minds. The thoughts and feelings of others, including those closest to us, are far from transparent; that makes mind reading the only way to know someone beyond the mere surface. It’s the only way to achieve true intimacy. And the only way to love someone for who he or she really is.
Take for example this picture of mind reading.
Yan ang Mind Reading..
Naiinis ako ngayung araw na to. Nakow!!,, kasi ganito ang nangyari,, bumibili ako ng tinapay,, syempre almusal,, alam nyo na kung anung tinapay yun,, french bread. Ang ganda pa naman ang approach ko dun sa tindera ng cheap na nagmamagandang bakeshop na yun.
“Miss,, 20 pieces na pandesal po.”
Akala ko narinig na nya kasi nasa harapan lang naman sya ng bakery. May dumating na isang costumer,, at yun muna ang inintindi nya. Tapos tumingin sya sa akin. Maya maya,, dumating yung parang boss nila. Maayos manamit at diretso lang sa loob ng booth nila. 10 minutes na akong naghihintay at wala pang umaasikaso sa akin. Sige,, pasensya lang ako. Nagsalita ulit ako.
“Miss,, pandesal nga po,, 20 pieces!”
Medyo napalakas ata yung boses ko at napalingon bigla yung boss nila na ewan. Nakow!!,, at sabi ba naman dun sa tindera nya na,, “Di mo ba nakikita yan?? Ba’t ayaw mong tindahan yan,, mukhang nagmamadali eh!”. Whatdfukss!!! Nag-init agad ang ulo ko at di na nakayanan nung bumbunan ko kaya’t bigla na lang sumabog,, eto ang naging conversation namin.
Jobit: Sir kanina pa akong 6:30 dito. Nung dumating ka andito pa ako at di pa nakaka-alis.
Boss: Eh kasalanan ko bang anjan ka pa rin hanggang ngayun?? Siguro di ka nagsasalita kaya’t di ka naririnig ng mga tindera ko. At akala mo kung sino kang makasigaw. Bibili ka lang naman eh, ganyan ka pa magsalita.
Jobit: Excuse me, Sir! Ewan ko kung bingi yung tindera mo o nabibingi-bingihan lang. Kasi naman,, wag kang kukuha ng tindera na tanga.
Boss: Maghinay hinay ka sa pagsasalita mo ah.
Jobit: Nakow! Tanungin mo sa kanya (tindera) kung anung oras pa ako nandito at hanggang ngayun eh nandito pa rin ako.
Boss: (Tinanung ang tindera) Anung oras pa sya nandito??
Tindera: Po??? Ha???
Jobit: Oh,, kita mo na!!?? Wag kang kukuha ng binging tindera! Nakow!! Kayo lang ang tindahan na ganito! Yung ibang bakery jan,, kahit na maliit lang,, basta may nakitang bibili eh,, lalapit agad sa customer. Ngayun alam mo na?? Tsaka di ako Sumisigaw kanina noh,, napalakas lang boses ko. At talagang nagmamadali ako!
Boss: Eh,, kung ayaw mo ng binging tindera, wag ka ditong bumili!
Jobit: Sa inyo na lang yung mga tinapay nyo!! Isaksak mo rin yan sa mga tenga nyo!! Pare -pareho kayung mga incompetent!! Pwe!!! Leche!!!
Boss: Anung sabi mo??!!
Jobit: Bingi!!! Leche!!!! (sabay lipat sa ibang bakery)
Filed under: funny issue, scandalous, self-talk | Tags: funny, school, self-talk
As I remember,, nung bata pa ako (hanggang ngayun pa naman eh),, active na active ako nun sa school,, kailanagan eh,, kasi kung hindi ako nakapag uwi ng quiz paper na walang star,, ang ulam ko,, gulay! Sino ba naman ang may gusto ng puro gulay na lang ang ulam noh?? At take note, wala pa akong baon,, sows!! Masyadong strict ang parents ko pagdating sa pag-aaral nun,, kaya eto ako ngayun,, pablog-blog na lang. Hehehe!!!
Aktwali,, marami naman akong awards na nakukuha nun eh,, ikaw ba naman ang active na active,, oh sa magandang salita ay,, atat na atat na makakuha ng STAR eh,, syempre,, pinadudugo ko ang boung utak ko at pinapuputok ko ang lahat ng ugat ko mula ulo hanggang paa para lang hindi makakuha ng MOON este zero pala. Sampol nga mga awads ko..
Most Punctual
Most Active
Most Concern Student
Oh di ba?? sino ba naman ang hindi magkakarun ng award nyan?? Wow!!!!
Rendition ni Bayani Agbayani ng Tagalog version ng Low. Natatawa ako pag naririnig ko ang mga corny na mga version tulad ng mga to. At kapag sinuwerte pa eh,, nakakasungkit pa ng Platinum Award,, nakow,, Pinoy nga naman oh.
Ito naman ang rendition ko ng lawlaw,, hay,, ewan ko din kung walang matawa dito.
Ten Years Of Progression
Oh,, di ba?? Yan ang totoong lawlaw!!!
Wala akong maisip na explanation dito sa post ko,, kasi naexplain na nilang lahat. Sinong sila?? Hehehee!!! Read!!!…
- Poor Sperm
Ang pinaka–nakakathrill na nagawa ko sa buong buhay ko ay ang mag-quickie. Quick sex sa madaling salita. Para sa akin kasi,, mas nakaka-entice ng feeling yung alam mong di lang puro sarap ang iniintindi mo,, kundi pati na rin yung nasa sitwasyon ka na maaari kang mahuli sa ginagawa mong kamunduhan. Ganun ang quickie,, madaliang sex. Madaliang pagpapalabas ng libog.
Pero ingat lang na di mahuli,, ng kung sinumang mata sa paligid.
Tulad na lang ng nasa larawang ito..
Turles in Action - Huli!!!
Oh,, di ba?? Ito lang talaga ang mahirap at nakakatawa sa quick sex,, kasi maaari kang mahuli anytime. Pero aaminin ko talaga,, kung gusto nyo ng adventure, why not try quick sex??
Nung bata pa ako,, puro gulay na lang ang ulam namin. Wala naman akong magagawa kasi nasa baryo ang bahay namin at malayo sa bayan. Kaya lingguhan lang kami kung makakain ng flesh meat.
Okey na rin yun. Kasi kung di ako nasanay na kumain ng gulay,, eh ako naman ngayun ang magiging gulay,, hehehe!!
Pero,, nung nagbinata na ako,, nagbago na ang panlasa ko sa mga gulay. Bakit kaya?? Dahil ba sa marami na akong ibang putahe na natitikman,, o di kaya naman,, mga street foods na ang ibang nilalafang ko,, o di kaya naman,, dahil sa isang ito.
Veggie Alien
Nyay!!!,, Anu ba yan?? Mukhang ako pa ang kakainin ng monster gulay na ito ah. Hehehe!!! Pero di naman talaga monster ang gulay eh. Tulad ng isang ito,,
Erotic Vegie
Oh di ba?? Kainan na!!!
Nagpunta ako sa eye clinic,, nagpacheck kasi ako ng eyes ko,, kasi feeling ko,, nadadamage na sa computer. In-accommodate naman ako ng maayos, konting check-up sa mata. Then,, pagkasabi ng doctor na kailangan ko daw magsout ng glasses,, kahit reading glasses lang to prevent the total damage from entering the eye.
So ganun nga,, nilabas na nya yung mga salamin na pwedeng bumagay sa mata ko.. Konting orientation lang,, tapos nilabas na rin nya yung snellen chart nya,, FYI,, yung doctor pong nag-assist sa akin ay lalaki.
So nung nakita ko yung snellen chart nya,, nagulat ako,, kasi ganito yung nakita kong image.
Snellen Chart
Nung makita ko yung chart na ito,, sabi ko dun sa doctor,, “Doc,, magnifying glass na lang ang ibigay mo sa akin,”. Hehehe!!!
Filed under: scandalous
Friday night,, nagkayayaan ang barkada,, bar hopping daw kami,, sabi ko naman sige, sure.. Pagkalipas ng limang shot ng REDHORSE,, wow,, pare,, nasisisipa na ako..
Red Horse Beer
Pagkatapos namin sa isang bar,, lipat na naman kami,, taena ‘to. Sabi ko sa kasama ko,, “Pare,, uwi na lang ako, kayo na lang ang gumala. Parang di ko na kaya eh.” At dahil may mga amats na rin ang mga kasama ko eh,, kinukulit na rin ako na sumama pa daw ako.
Lipat ulit kami ng isang bar sa may Malate, buti na lang at dala ng kasama ko ang oto nya, kung hindi,, mahihirapang kaming sumakay ng sumakay.
So tahimik na lang ako sa isang tabi,, samantalang sila,, ayun,, sila na ang sumasayaw dun sa stage,, hehehe!!! imbes na mga girls ang mag show,, naging gay bar tuloy yung place. Hehehe!! Ang nagagawa nga naman ng Red Horse noh??
3:00 am na ako nakauwi sa bahay ko. Okey lang at walang pasok bukas,, sabado naman eh. Pagkapasok ko ng kuwarto ko,, ayun,, para akong may kausap,, hehehe!!! Wala naman akong kasama. Ang nagagawa nga naman ng Red Horse.
6:00 am,, nagising ako,, nakaramdam ako ng panunuyo ng lalamunan. naghagilap ako ng maiinum,, buti may C-2 sa bag. So inum ako,, taena ‘to,, nakakasuka pala ang C-2 kapag di malamig,, takbo naman ako ng banyo,, sabay labas ng kung anuman ang lahat lahat ng mga pinag-kakain ko at lahat ng nainom ko na Red Horse. Hay… ang nagagawa naman ng Red horse.
Pero,, iinum at iinum pa rin ako. Hindi ko pinapansin ang hang-over pagkagising sa umaga,, basta ang request ng barkada,, o ang bonding,, di mapapalitan kahit gaano man kataas ang HANG-OVER ko.
Filed under: scandalous
Yan ang tanung ko nung mabalitaan ko na hindi si Ms. Janina San Miguel ang magiging representative of the Philippines in Miss World that will be held in Johannesburg, South Africa on December 13, 2008. (Naksss.. Engrish yun ah..) Bakit kaya??
Ang ganda pa naman nya at her family is very important in her life… hehehe!!!
Binibing Pilipinas Miss World 2008 - Ms. Janina San Miguel
Marami pa namang mga nag-aabang sa kanyang magiging ferformance performance sa Ms. World. Naku..naku..naku.. I need an exflenation explanation.
“The replacement of Binibining Pilipinas (Miss Philippines) World Janina San Miguel on Tuesday showed that she is better than her predecessor in one respect: her English-speaking ability.
That’s because 19-year-old Danielle Castaño, who formally assumed the duties of Binibining Pilipinas Ms. World after San Miguel officially quit on Monday, is a Filipino-American.
The Binibining (Bb.) Pilipinas Ms. World 1st runner-up was born in the US and has been living in the Philippines for just over a year.
“Ms. Araneta called me and she told me that I have to be there in an hour…Actually, I was at Malate,” Castano said with a strong American accent.
She was referring to Ms. Stella Marquez Araneta, organizer of Binibining Pilipinas, the franchise holder of the Ms. Universe, Ms. World, and Ms. International contests.
Castaño, however, sounded just a bit better than San Miguel when it comes to grammar. “I’m very proud that I was choosed (sic) by Mrs. Araneta.”
San Miguel won the Bb. Pilipinas Ms. World despite having difficulty answering in English a judge’s question on what role her family played in her bid to be Bb. Pilipinas Ms. World.
The Ms. World 2008 beauty contest is scheduled to be held on December 13 at the Sandton Convention Center in Johannesburg, South Africa. Contestants have to be in the South African city by November 16.
Personal reasons
Binibining Pilipinas Charities Inc. (BPCI) announced Monday that San Miguel quit as the country’s representative to the 2008 Ms. World beauty pageant due to personal reasons.
“The untimely demise of her grandfather, among other personal reasons, has caused her undue stress, thus hindering her from fulfilling her duties for the said title,” the BPCI said in a statement.
“In accordance with BPCI rules and regulations, 1st Runner-Up Danielle Castaño will replace Ms. San Miguel as the official Philippine representative to the Ms. World 2008 pageant,” it added.
“BPCI wishes to express its gratitude to Ms. San Miguel for this act of graciousness and concern for the country. They also wish her well in her future endeavors,” the company said.
ABS-CBN’s TV Patrol said Tuesday that with only one-and-a-half months left before Ms. World contestants have to be in Johannesburg, there are speculations that San Miguel did not resign but was forced to do so due to her lack of abilities in representing the country. — with a report from GINGER CONEJERO, ABS-CBN News”
Tulad na lang ng naging performance nya dito oh..
Hehehe!!! Kaya naman pala… ziiipppp!!!! Ayaw ko ng mag-comment. What you see is what you saw. Hehehe!!!
At ito naman ang ating representative sa darating na Miss World. Gentleman,, have a round of applause to…
Ms Danielle Castaño
Oh,, ayan,, infairness.. mala-dyosa rin naman,, kaya,, mare, galingan mo na lang sa Miss World ha..
